Thursday, October 9, 2008

Freewrite: When do you pass?

I’m more aware of when don’t pass than when I do.

I pass when I pass out of danger. When mistakes and assumptions make me more safe rather than less. I passed in grade school when boys were too afraid of loosing to fight me. I pass when I came to college and northerners confided in me about how racist and ignorant those southerners are. I passed in grocery stores when I was on food stamps and I went to the self-check out line, so friends assumed I was using my ATM card.

I pass when I escape scrutiny. When people don’t imply that I secretly want to be something I don’t allow myself to be. I pass in Pride meeting when lesbian couples want to adopt me. I pass when other people make my life easier because they think I’m like them. I pass when I’m hitchhiking and mothers stop their cars because they wouldn’t want their daughters to be picked up by skeezy truck drivers.

I pass when I want to and when I don’t. I pass when other confer a privilege on me that I have not come to expect.

1 comment:

Monica said...

Segway comment -

This made me think of you. This morning I registered on Digg (www.digg.com) to be able to 'digg things' I find on the web. The gender options on the registration page made me smile.

Guy
Girl
Dude
Lady
Fellow
Bird
Chap
grrrl
Gentleman
Damsel
Beau
Belle
Male
Female
Transgender
None of the Above